Couples Counselling

The shoe that fits one person pinches another; there is no one recipe for living that suits all cases.
Carl Jung

What problems can couples counselling help with?

People come to couple counselling for many different reasons including, feeling distant with each other, not being able to communicate effectively, sexual /intimacy issues, constant bickering/arguments, affairs, impact of depression/anxiety/ bereavement/redundancy/retirement/illness, blended family issues, control and responsibility issues.

What’s the aim of couple counselling?

The overall aim of couple counselling is to get back to something good that has been lost, to help you both to support each other through a difficult time, or to part amicably. In order for couple counselling to be effective both parties have to be committed to making a difference. This is an investment in your future whether that’s together or apart, to help you both work together as a couple and have a more fulfilling life together or so that you can work together to support other family members affected if you decide to separate.

What kinds of couples do I work with?

I have experience of working with many different types of couples, including heterosexual, bi-sexual, lesbian, gay, trans, gender fluid and those in exclusive, open or polyamorous relationships. I see my client as being the relationship between you both. I don’t work with couples where there is violence or addiction in the relationship and would recommend that individual therapy is sought for these issues before embarking upon couples therapy.

What happens in a couple counselling session?

We will look at the problems you are having and unpack them in a safe, supportive way. I will help you both to explore and explain issues. Couples work doesn’t only take place in the counselling room, I may also suggest homework for you to do together or separately at home. Typically couple counselling is not a quick fix and I would usually expect to see couples for at least 6 sessions.